Our Incorporeal Union lives inside a Spirit Palace of our own design, it was built from the sticks and branches that fell from the tree of life. Inside we have furniture made from its leaves, acorns, and pine needles. It is a warm and cozy place and when we feel alone, we invite others in to share our home. Sometimes these guests stay beyond their welcome, they bring their things, and our home begins to stink. Some make changes, break down walls and even burn it to the ground. Unfortunately, this happens to all of us at one point or another, especially when someone breaks our boundaries.
We must have walls around our palace to protect our home from those who might hurt us. Towers must be erected to see far and wide, soldiers must be conscripted to defend our borders and we must be willing to fight.
When someone violates our haven, we tend to barricade ourselves within our palace walls. We want to lock the gate and sleep away the day. This is a slippery slope and a terrible way to cope. No matter how many people hurt us, we cannot let go of the good. We must continue investing in the potential of people.
Having effective personal boundaries requires walls, but we must also build ourselves a gate. If we surround ourselves with cold stone we will never feel the wind. We will never have the opportunity to allow others in, or even meet amazing men and women. When we hurt, it is ok to take some time to lick our wounds, but we must never seal the door forever. This is challenging, especially when we have been hurt by those who were supposed to love us the most. Pain can be horrible, but it doesn’t have to destroy us. We can rise high into the sky and become a beacon in the night. We can use our hurt to inspire others, and guide suffering souls toward happiness and hope.
Negativity begets negativity
Negativity begets negativity. When we shroud our eyes with darkness, all we will ever see is darkness. If we want to live a delightfully magnificent life, we must actively work to ensure our existence does not become a prison of our own design. We must find ways to grant others the opportunity to find us. We must seek out beauty, spend time with new spirits, and bask in the radiant rays of each new day.
As we celebrate the goodness of the world it opens up opportunities for us to create gateways in our walls. It reminds us why we would want to invite delightful new spirits to be near us. And, perhaps most importantly, it gives our Incorporeal Union the ability to breathe.
You are Incredible
I don’t know if you are aware of this, but you are incredible. You are more spectacular than the first days of summer. You are more refreshing than the cold, crisp taste of lemonade on a sweltering hot day. You are magnificent, interesting, and unique. You have a special gift within you, and the higher beings of the universe are waiting for you to share it with the world. They, just like the many people who love you, are waiting for you to stretch out your wings and achieve your dreams.
There is good energy everywhere, and if you open your heart, you will feel it. Open your heart up to the idea that there are good people in the world. Sometimes believing this is challenging, but there are far more people who want help than there are malicious monsters. In my journey I have faced some terrible foes, but I have never lost hope. No matter how horrible the world may seem, as long as there is one man attempting to rebuild the vessel of existence, goodness will always prevail.
Our walls must be built with love
Our walls must be built with love. When they are constructed from the resources of suffering and hate they become bulldozers. The deeper you are within the darkness the more pain you bring to those around you. Negativity begets negativity. Your walls must exist to protect you, they cannot be weapons. Sure, they may be barbed and guarded by towers and soldiers, but these defenses must only act in self-defense. When your walls are infused with hurt and horror, they become alien things. Rather than standing stalwart and strong, they become heavy, and move on their own accord. This is why I call them bulldozers.
Personal boundaries should be clearly defined, healthy and fair. We all know that life is not fair, but what you may not know is that relationships should always be fair. We should seek to elevate the vibration of every relationship string in our life. Each transaction should be harmonious, mutually beneficial, and infused with honesty. If our personal boundaries have been constructed with suffering and pain, the darkness of our existence will ensure our boundaries are never enforced in this way. Instead, they will move and shift, the people around us will never know where to stand, because every time they interact with our boundaries they will seem to move at random throughout the land.
We are the Sum of Our Experiences
Our Spirit Palace is the sum of all of our incorporeal parts. It is a fortress, a heavenly home, a place to house our emotional creatures, and a dungeon filled with our darkest parts. It is a place built from every life experience of our existence, and it is equally influenced by entropy and ascension.
If we want to have healthy, fair, and clearly defined personal boundaries we must explore, upkeep, and protect our Spirit Palace. We must feed our Mind, Spirit, and Soul the Scoobie snacks they need. Our emotional creatures must be offered the energy and attention they seek. Our Dark Parts must be approached with care, consideration, and willful intent. We must use our towers to do more than simply defend, they must be used as a tool to keep us accountable. They need to tell us if our walls have become steam rollers, notify us when we are breaking the boundaries of others, and protect our own.