Your heart will never receive the person of her dreams if you expect her to be with an expert of everything. If your prospective perfect partner has every nook and cranny of their life filled with purpose and peace, where can you fit yourself in while still being able to breathe? If you hope to be that person who gets to ride beside someone who already has made their life an undeniable delight, you will become a trinket, an accessory, or something pretty they want to see when they need a release. When we shoot for those who have already reached the finish line, the loyalty behind the love will never be worn like a glove, you will always play second fiddle, because you were not there to help write and sing their number one song.
So much time is poured into searching for the wrong qualities, we listen to the vibes of unholy forces and seek the sweetness of quick candy over a hearty meal. As a result, men and women no longer know how to play the courtship dance, our world is rampant with divorce, and when relationships are on the right track, we are easily convinced to change course. If we want to walk the path of purposeful and peaceful love, we need to take the time to see where our weaknesses might be. I know it may be hard to see, but within our weaknesses are beautiful tools that can teach us the ways our vulnerabilities need to be received. There are those in the world who are strong in places where we have flaws, and they experience joy when they can fill our voids. We have strengths that others want to see, and through our talents and desires we can set them free. Relationships are about harmony, balance, and variety and when they are formed from a foundation of empathy, humility and creativity, true love is born.
Love can be about candy canes, colorful swirls, chocolate cakes and things, but its significance goes deeper than fun and games. It is an emotional place that allows us to explore deep spaces, vulnerabilities and discover our strengths. It is a union of two souls, each lacking in their own way, building, and maintaining an alliance to support each other in mutually beneficial ways.