Relationships are like a story. When we are with someone, we need to create a narrative. This means we must know why we are together. Time must be invested into setting the stage, and this is represented by what our life looks like together. If we are with a partner who has never been with someone like us, or if their prior relationship was wounded by a violation of trust, we must take the time to prove we are different, and SHOW we are different.
As a couple we are forging a beautiful story, and if we want to write the fairy tale of our dreams, we need to feel safe and seen. This requires an investment in suspending our disbelief. Our partner needs to show us we can trust them, they are consistent, and can offer us love that encourages us to feel gleefully free. A rise of action must be introduced from time to time because life is meant to be an adventure. Sure, there are doldrums we will face, but when we travel on the highway of life with our lover, we need to find ways to make our days amazing.
Finally, we need to offer a space for our partner to slide down the mountain. They need peace and ease, and some time away from the hustle and bustle of the day. We need to show them how soft and gentle intimacy can be, they need to see we can touch and hug without an expectation of a physical release.